Dyspareunia is the medical term for “painful intercourse.” It’s specific cause is generally irritation of the vulva or vaginal opening due to trauma, infection, or anxiety. Sexual intercourse must be pleasurable to both partners and is therefore never supposed to hurt. However certain problems can make it painful in either partners and if this happens, the couple must seek immediate treatment from a doctor. Here is a list of commonly encountered problems that can make sex a hurtful experience.
Infection – Any infection can irritate the sexual parts of women and men. Women are more commonly affected and if the sexual act causes pain during or after, it is obvious that the person would never like to do it ….. let alone enjoy it. Therefore if intercourse is painful, your first step should be a trip to the doctor and get the problem treated correctly.
Lack of lubrication – Just as the erection of the penis is a sign that a man is sexually aroused, the sign of sexual arousal in women is wetness of her vagina. This lubricates the vaginal barrel and decreases the friction of intercourse. If this does not happen, it becomes painful during intercourse and after. To know the cause of lack of wetness in a woman is of utmost importance & this can be ascertained by detailed questioning & proper examination. Once the cause is ascertained, correct advice and treatment can easily solve this problem.
Vaginismus –In this condition, having sex for the first time itself becomes impossible for a woman. This is a serious problem and sometimes not understood by the couple and their family. I have witnessed broken marriages because this condition was not treated in time and correctly. If you are a woman contracting your legs tightly each time whilst attempting sex with your partner or if you have great fear of any object nearing your vagina because the object may penetrate inside, then is very likely that you have vaginismus.This action is similar to automatic shutting of eyes when you sense an approaching object like a finger, insect or dust particle in the air. Vaginismus can be effectively treated only by seeking professional help. Patience perseverance and support from the family (especially the mother or a close friend of the woman) can immensely help the doctor to treat this condition.
Vulvodynia – Sometimes, even if your genitals may look healthy and you’re experiencing wetness, and there is no vaginismus, and yet intercourse still hurts, then vulvodynia or vulvar vestibulitis syndrome is the possible diagnosis. Treatment for this condition may be slightly longer term and you must seek professional help in overcoming this difficulty.